This year I had promised myself to always post abit of my thoughts and self here. 

For the month of January I’m going to talk about the vast effect of a broken home and absence of an important figure (father /mother) on the mental health of offsprings that comes from such family.


A broken family can negatively affect all domains of your child’s development. The effects of a broken family on a child’s development depend on numerous factors, including the age of the child at the time of parents’ separation, and on the personality and family relationships. Although infants and young children may experience few negative developmental effects, older children and teenagers may experience some problems in their social, emotional and educational functioning.


The separation of parents cause a great mental deficiency in the social, emotional and educational function of a child.  The height of this deficiency also depends on

1. The stage (age) the child was when the separation occurred
2. How involved the child was in the cause of separation
3. The bound the child has with the parent who is to be absent after seperation
4. The bound the child also has with the parent he/she is to stay with
5. The child maturity without regard to his/her age.

After a divorce, children from pre-school through late adolescence can experience deficits in emotional development. Children of all ages may seem tearful or depressed, which is a state that can last for several years after a child’s parents’ have separated, explains psychologist Lori Rappaport. Additionally, some older children may show very little emotional reaction to their parents’ divorce. According to Lori Rappaport, this may not be developmentally beneficial. Some children who show little emotional response are actually bottling up their negative feelings. This emotional suppression makes it difficult for parents, teachers and therapists to help the child process her feelings in developmentally appropriate ways.

Slowed academic development is another common way that separation of the parents affects children. The emotional stress of a divorce alone can be enough to stunt your child’s academic progress, but the lifestyle changes and instability of a broken family can contribute to poor educational outcomes. This poor academic progress can stem from a number of factors, including instability in the home environment, inadequate financial resources and inconsistent routines.

Divorce affects children’s social relationships in several ways. First, some children act out their distress about their broken family by acting aggressive and by engaging in bullying behaviour, both of which can negatively affect peer relationships. Other children may experience anxiety, which can make it difficult for them to seek positive social interactions and engage in developmentally beneficial activities such as teen sports. Teens from broken families might develop a cynical attitude toward relationships and harbour feelings of mistrust, both toward their parents and potential romantic partners, explains psychologist Carl Pickhardt in the article, ‘Parental Divorce and Adolescents’ published in Psychology Today

There is also the case of children who never had a pair figure from the very beginning of there life,  most cases are the absents of a father.

This children tends to have a different perspective about men and marriage depending also on how and where they were raised. 
A child who grew up without a father/mother might never want to have a child due to his/her experience growing up without one.
They are mostly afraid of letting someone else experience the same thing they did.
Also, the emotional part is not left out. They will definitely have trust issues

This topic is broad and all corners of it can’t be reached.

Remember that every decision you make will also affect someone, think twice before any decision.  Just has you can opt out of marriage anytime why not survey properly your decision before locking it down. when a child comes in here It becomes harder and messier because the child’s mental health will be involve.


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